Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Threats don’t work

Keep the beauty of teaching fun!

Threats don’t work.  Teachers are told this all the time, but they do it anyway.
I know that teachers often feel overwhelmed and they use any technique they can, to get their students to listen to them. But know that when you threaten a child it doesn't work, especially if you don’t follow through with it.

Teachers take some of the most exciting and fun things of a student’s Early Childhood experience and use it as a threat. Such as; party days or special holidays.

How many times have you heard a teacher say to a student that if they did not stop what they were doing they would not get a cupcake?  Or over heard them tell their entire class that if they did not settle down they wouldn't get a party? Which they knew was already arranged.

The best way to handle these situations is to tell your class that you understand how exciting the day must be for them, but you need them to settle down so that they can get other things in the class done.

I've also heard teachers tell their students that they are going to tell their parent if they continue to exhibit certain behavior, at least three to four times a day. Tell them once and move on.

Tell the student that he/she didn't make good choices today, so you are going to speak to their mom/or dad when they pick them up.

One of the things that make me cringe is when I hear a teacher tell a student that they will not be receiving a piece of candy because they were bad. A teacher should never under any circumstances tell a child that they are bad.

When you say things like this to children it is not only a poor way to manage your class, but it is also demeaning to the child.

Part of being a good teacher is establishing a good relationship with your students based on trust and respect. If you are the type of teacher that uses threats to control your classroom you are not establishing a good relationship with your students and they will not respect or trust you, because you don’t follow through with what you say you are going to do, yet you expect them to.

I've been in Early Childhood a very long time, but I don’t know everything and sometimes I have to ask my mentor. That is what I suggest you do; if you don’t know if your discipline techniques are acceptable for an Early Childhood setting ask someone. Because it will benefit not only you, but your students and the teachers, that look up to you.

The best way to discipline a student is to give them choices, make it about them and not something that you want or need.

Above all, do not use food to discipline your students, you don’t know each child’s home environment, and that plate of food or treat that you are denying them could be the only thing they get for that day.

Respect our little people and treat them with the respect that they deserve.


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